Guys, have you ever been really excited for a first date, only to have the girl never contact you again after? If this applies to you and you have no idea what you’re doing wrong, you might be shooting off your mouth too much or asking a few taboo questions which are, trust us, major turn-offs. Read on to find out more about the 11 questions you should never ask a girl on the first date!
1) Why are you still single?
Okay, we get that you sincerely want to know, especially if you think we’re a ‘good catch’. But the incredulity in the question only highlights the fact that despite the qualities she possesses, she is still unable to find a partner. Herein lies the problem: your question frames her as a ‘lemon’.
2) Have you ever done (something sexual)?
This question is better reserved for couples in a stable, long-term relationship, and is not meant for someone you’ve just started courting seriously. Even if both of you are very comfortable and open with each other, we would advise you to err on the side of caution and steer clear of this question!
3) How many guys have you been with?
Similar to the above – although people are becoming increasingly open about their sexuality, to ask a girl how many guys she has been with during courtship is not only intrusive, but also too fast too soon.
4) Are those real?
It has become a norm for girls to enhance their beauty with products like black-rimmed contact lenses and eyelash extensions. If you’re into the ‘natural’ look, put it across in a positive light – tell her she looks just as beautiful without makeup, and she’ll take it much better than if you ask her if her eyelashes are real. Or worse, whether her lady lumps are real.
5) So… what do you want to do now?
Girls like it when guys make date plans for them, because it shows that they care enough to put in an effort. When you’re on a first date, you definitely want to impress the girl, so do your homework, plan a solid itinerary (with Plan B’s) and don’t leave things up to chance.
6) Why didn’t you answer my text/call?
No one wants to be that whiny, needy partner who’s constantly seeking attention or validation. Give her some space, and your relationship will grow a lot faster.
7) Can I kiss you?
If the moment is right, just go for it. Asking permission for a kiss – depending on how you do it exactly – might make you seem like a gentleman if you play it correctly, but most often just makes you look like a chicken wuss.
8) Are you PMS-ing?
Do not, and I repeat, do not ask a girl whether she is having PMS. If she really is hormonal because the time of the month came, understand that she likes it no more than you do, and that she didn’t ask for it.
9) What’s wrong with me?
If the girl you’re pursuing shows little interest in you, perhaps it’s time to hit the road. Asking her what you’re lacking could reveal to her a bad case of insecurity, as well as awkwardness, because this is not a job interview post mortem. This may only serve to drive her further away. As the saying goes: if it’s meant to be, things will eventually fall into place.
10) Did you put on weight?
Weight, like age, is and will always be a sensitive topic that you should always avoid. Unless you fancy hydrating your own face with a hurled cocktail from her, never, ever post this question to any female. Not even the ones whom you’re ‘Bros’ with and not romantically linked!
11) Why are you eating so much?
Unless you know that she is legit binge-eating (and even then, there are better ways to start this conversation), this question is highly prescriptive at best and misogynistic at worst. Remember that not everyone has the same metabolic rate as you!
If you’re a clueless guy, these 11 questions may seem harmless to you. But females don’t see it the same way as you do. Let this be a periodic table of ‘Do Not Ask’s’ on your first date, so you can be surer that your potential relationship with her doesn’t get cut short right off the bat!
‘First Date Questions – What You Should NEVER Ask’ has been written by an unnamed contributor who ‘s still holding out hope that guys would one day ask the right questions.