Online dating, huh. In the past decade that has introduced a sexed-up world with the act of swiping, it has become very good at bringing people together as much as it has caused existential crisis with cultural phenomenons of catfishing and ghosting. But no matter which side of the fence you fall on, it has sparked a stream of conversations.
One of the conversations is how science can help you become more adept at online dating. Recently, NBC News published an article that cited research studies on the subject matter. The results and data derived point towards best practices for online dating success, as swiping for love has proven to be disheartening and, at times, distressing for many who try it long enough. For instance, indicators that make a relationship work, such as communication abilities and how well a couple enjoy each other’s company, cannot be determined by online interactions alone.
Moreover, data from Pew Research Center found that even though more people are being matched online, more than a third have not taken things offline for a meet up. It is corroborated by a research at Department of Communication Studies at University of Antwerp that age is the only reliable indicator of how likely online daters will meet up.
Although the mention of science tends to bring up the idea of new discoveries, the tips in the article are hardly anything novel at this point. The psychology-backed tips include common wisdom of choosing a smiley photo to increase attractiveness, writing an interesting blurb in your profile and keeping online conversations short.
So if you’re one to still be grinding through the online dating burnout, or holding out for love on the likes of Tinder, OK Cupid and Coffee Meets Bagel, here’s the full doctrine.
1. Pick the right dating app according to what you’re looking for.
2. Approaching online dating with some honesty about who you are (as opposed to catfishing your matches) can save a lot of time and effort.
3. Your profile photo can (and will) influence your match’s initial attitude towards you.
4. Capture short attention spans with a snappy, uniquely-you bio.
5. Be open minded towards those with vastly different interests. Sometimes you have to work to make it work.
6. Keep the online conversation going by asking specifics based on the other person’s profile, but don’t draw out the exchange for more than two weeks. Pull the trigger and set up a date.
7. If online dating feels like a chore, call for a time out on all the swiping.